Sex, Intimacy and Relationship Coaching
Welcome to Closeness. When people begin looking for help in the intimacy department, a lot of questions arise: Is this the right fit? Do we need a sex coach or sex therapist? We are having problems outside of sex, is this person going to be able to help us with couple’s counseling? And the answer is, I personally specialize in all of this: removing barriers to intimacy, mediating hard conversations, solving and dealing with all the things that come up in relationship including time, finances, kids, hobbies, cooking, restaurants and more. The icing on the cake is that I also happen to be the top rated sex educator in a very, very large area.
So if you are struggling in ANY department, as it relates to relationships, marriage, casual dating, sex, intimacy, closeness, how do do this or that… You’re also in the right place.
Interestingly much of my work revolves around helping men learn to create hot chemistry with their partner, right there on the spot.
I help men be more assertive and natural with their partners in a way that women find electrifying and thrilling. I also help women tap into their own pleasure and process their emotions and desires.
None of this can be done without working through sticking points, and building emotional trust first, so you will never be expected to “dive right in to the sex stuff,” as most people searching for help feel.
However, if the sexual aspect of your relationship is missing, needs a tune up, or has been lost, and you both are open and coachable, you are in very good hands.
Unlock the power of connection through expert coaching at Closeness
Sexual Guidance, and Transformative Intimacy and Relationship Coaching
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SOOTHING
A 180 degree, rainforest style view of nature, four stunning floor to ceiling glass windows with sprawling views, soothing art, supple furniture, mood lighting, a velvet sofa, oversized down pillows and feathers…all for your enjoyment.
SENSUAL
Real candles, a eucalyptus forest, huge floor length mirrors, essential oils, and your own private exit when you can’t wait to go home and explore what you’ve learned! Closeness is an elegant sensory experience!
SANITARY
Hand sanitizer, 2 HEPA air filtration systems, spacious accommodations, air conditioning, humidification, A/C or warmth, high quality air, a private entrance and clean restrooms.
FEES
WORLD CLASS SEXUAL GUIDANCE AND INTIMACY COACHING
YOUR FIRST VISIT
No Contracts
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Do 60, 90 or 120 minute sessions
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WEEKENDS VISITS and AFTER 5PM
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To better accommodate your schedule, after hours and weekend times are now available.
60, 90 or 120 minute sessions available
LOCK IN SAVINGS
when you buy 4 hours
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$225 per hour when you purchase 4 daytime hours, or $275 for after hours
Enjoy four 60 min sessions OR
2 90 minute + one 60 minute session
Terms and Conditions:
A $250, non-refundable deposit is required to secure your first daytime appointment or $300 for an after-hours or weekend appointment.
This fee applies directly to your session cost for the first hour. You may reschedule your appointment any time up to 36 hours prior to your first visit for up to a week or two out.
All missed, cancelled or rescheduled appointments within 36 hours of your session will forego your initial deposit. Once you have come for your first visit you do not need to pre-pay for additional visits, but the same fees will apply for cancellations.
2024 Fee schedule is as follows: $250 per hour Monday - Friday 10-5pm. $300 per hour after 5pm, early mornings, weekends and holidays.
Billing is in 30 minute increments, not by the minute. Generally sessions run 50-60, 90 or 120 minutes, but can and do go over for billable time. As a courtesy, if a significantly less than 30 minutes is used, (for example 15 minutes) a $75 or $100 will be assessed based on your $250 vs $300 rate.
If we need to be mindful of time or keep to a shorter session, please advise me at the beginning of your session.
Accepted Payment methods: Cash, Venmo, Apple Pay, Zelle, CashApp and all major credit cards.
Credit Cards will incur a 5% surcharge
WHAT TO EXPECT FROM A CLOSENESS SESSION
I SHOW YOU HOW IT’S DONE, BUT FIRST YOU HAVE TO FEEL SAFE
Every session always begins with talking first to get acquainted, get comfortable and build trust. We make sure everyone is onboard with why they are here. We may simply talk the entire session, or when and if appropriate, you will have the option to interact with each other in real time with my guidance. We can ramp up the temperature slowly or quickly depending on how you both feel. Chemistry begins to build.
You will immediately have an experiential change in how you interact around your partner that happens at an order of magnitude far greater than traditional talk only methods.
By engaging and interacting with each other in a safe, fun and consensually suggestive way, desire increases, emotional trust gets repaired and sexual attraction builds right before your eyes.
You’ll get respectful real-time feedback and coaching on what excites you, shuts you down, opens you up or turns you on in a safe, soothing environment. All interactions are optional, consent based and effective.
Remember: Talk only sessions with zero interactions are always ok.
RESULTS HAPPEN QUICKLY, BUT WE STILL MOVE AT YOUR COMFORT LEVEL
Like listening to my podcast, it does not take long to see results or to identify what needs to change. You will leave your first session with a LOT of new insights as well as ways to actually be different around your partner or future partner.
Guidance comes in the form of information and exercises you can apply in session or as soon as you walk out the door.
If something isn’t clear, we can, with everyone’s consent, show you how to get the result you’re looking for by modeling it, explaining it, or demonstrating it in a way that works for you.
I am your personal advocate. I take a warm, direct and sensual approach to intimacy and do not take sides, regardless of who contacted me first.
THIS IS A CLASSY AND ELEGANT SPACE
When you share the most intimate parts of your life with someone new, it’s important to feel comfortable with that person and know what does and does not happen. Let’s face it, we’re talking about some pretty hot and intimate stuff here. Sometimes unexpected emotions and anxieties around sex and intimacy do come up.
It is absolutely ok for things to get a little spicy and exciting in your session. It´s ok to feel excitement. This is after all the point of why you came to see me. If you find yourself a little aroused or even extremely turned on or wet, or if it feels like your sexual chemistry is building and being restored, that means what we’re doing is working!
However, when it comes to me, your coach, I do not make out with my clients. There are no fluids exchanged. No one needs to get undressed and no one is getting fully naked. No one takes off their underwear. Nothing messy occurs. There is no sex.
The space is clean, sanitary and comfortable.
However, please feel free to touch, caress, feel, kiss and explore each other based on your comfort level. We keep it classy, consensual and in good taste.
Closeness coaching needs to be experienced:
Tari is THE BEST! I had been researching premarital counseling and intimacy coaching when I discovered Tari’s Closeness podcast. I was immediately hooked and thrilled to find out he offered in-person coaching. From the first communication Tari was welcoming, proactive in accommodating. My husband and I both look forward to our sessions, whether its a couples sessions or one on one. Tari has a superpower in translating my thoughts into a language my husband can understand. He has been able to dissect so many issues, anxieties and behaviors and then transform them with his exercises and expertise. We have been able to work through heavy issues (and comical issues) but always leave his office feeling happy and closer than ever!
Working with Tari has been the best investment in our marriage and myself!
Abi Gault, San Diego
OPTIONAL INTERACTIONS AND DEMOS:
Show me how you make her feel...
I hold space for unique interactions and demos that create trust, excitement and arousal. The way you hold and carry yourself in intimate situations matters, even if you're just walking across the room to her. Understanding the effects your body language and eye contact has on your partner, is key for a great connection.
Sometimes we must unlayer some bad habits. This includes talking too much, or being overly careful when you touch her, and increasing your confidence.
Do you use language and expressions that are revolting or shocking to your partner and turn her off? Are there things you're saying or doing that are hindering closeness and sex?
We can transform your tone, energy, body language, and approach so that your partner actually responds favorably- read sexually- to you and finds you more attractive. She needs to feel like you're present, unwavering, masculine and that you desire her to feel SAFE before she will open up.
Click the heading above to learn more
Next, you'll genuinely connect with your partner
Couples often think foreplay warming her up takes hours, but in my office it can be done in minutes and even seconds. It's about the connection. Not with your brain but with your energy, intention and eyes. It's not about logically calculating how to handle this situation, doing what I say or "dealing with her" the way you would in a business setting. It's not about a "trick" you can use to get sex.
You open her with presence and connection. How's your breathing? Your eye contact? Your presence and comfort in yourself? Using your senses to feel, sense, touch, and savor your partner, I'll teach you all about the domain of the erotic and how to fan the flames of desire. In English, that means I'll teach you how to get her wet and read for sexual intimacy.
Eroticism can't flourish in the suffocating space of control, mechanical movement, silliness, too much comfort or overbearing dominance.
Finally, you can explore with connected touch
Teasing. Playing. exploring, touching and feeling. Does she like the slow burn and build up, or does she get antsy when you're too slow because she needs more intensity? Being able to read this one difference is huge for all couples.
Most women want to start slow then ramp up to the perfect intensity that drives them wild. Other women are calibrated to crave more immediate erotic intensity or overtly sexual advances, while others like to be constantly teased.
Step by step, I teach you how to dial it back or ramp it up with her in REAL time, where you can visibly see her arousal - or rejection - right before your eyes. We do it again and again using her arousal as an indicator of whether it's working or not.
I offer HEALTHY dominance, leadership, assertiveness, and competence training.
This level of deep listening is unavailable anywhere else!
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Follow through and moving forward
When your partner feels aroused by you, by being in your presence, no words are required. You have built powerful chemistry. She responds by getting excited and WANTING to be sexual with you. There is no need for convincing, begging or asking.
It's time to take what you've learned and enjoy the fruits of your labor with a passionate evening together. Yes, chemistry can be learned and rediscovered. Yes, I can teach you how to harness it.
Contrary to what many believe, chemistry CAN be created from nothing.
Click the link in the heading to listen to the podcast on this subject.
ALL interactions are 100% optional and consensual, and the results are fantastic!
I AM YOUR SEXUAL TRANSLATOR
It doesn't take much to get your partner excited
Did you know women can shift from being frustrated and emotional to being incredibly turned on? In my office, this often happens within seconds or minutes again and again.
As your Closeness Coach, I have a rare ability to put into words or action, that which your partner simply cannot. I can teach you how to speak to and interact with your woman in a way that lights her up.
I TEACH CONFIDENCE, PRESENCE, ASSERTIVENESS, COMPETENCE, HEALTHY DOMINANCE, AND HOW TO BE SEXUAL
I can also help mediate all ultra sensitive talks and subjects that you can’t work out at home. This means you do not need to come see me for sexual reasons. I can help you communicate better. I can say the words you struggle to say, help each other gain perspective and navigate topics that are too hot to tackle on your own. I facilitate hard discussions without escalating anxiety.
I speak the languages of love, trust, lust, sensuality, and excitement fluently.
WHEN YOUR WORDS GET LOST IN TRANSLATION, I AM YOUR SEXUAL TRANSLATOR
HAVE BETTER SEX TONIGHT
YOU'VE NEVER EXPERIENCED SOMETHING LIKE THIS BEFORE
Often clients who have gone through traditional forms of therapy, sex therapy, psychotherapy and marriage and family counseling, report that the advice they received was too general or bland.
Sexual intimacy requires more nuance and awareness around very specific interactions. Therapists are a wonderful and necessary asset for our mental and emotional health, but I am often told sexual subjects are better suited in my neck of the woods. When you’re looking for help with masculinity, assertiveness, intensity, chemistry, passion, connection and excitement, you’ve come to the right place.
At Closeness you can share your intimate, sexual thoughts, needs, desires and truths that no one else knows, without fear of judgement and without it leaving the room.
I can help you mediate, articulate and manifest fiery subjects that you have never verbalized to anyone perhaps ever. It’s incredible what getting it out getting to your truth can do for you.
In session, I read the room, use language and body language that you’re comfortable with and guide you and your partner in a respectful, suggestive way that allows transformation to happen immediately.
FOR WOMEN
What does this CLOSENESS guy know anyway?
Let’s state the obvious: I am a man, helping and teaching women how to get in touch with that very special part of themselves. Tasting that forbidden fruit may not be for everyone but if you want to get this part of your life handled, I’m your guy. I help you get to know yourself, get out of your head and out of your way to help you get what you want and need sexually. At first you might be unsure or skeptical. I get it. I encourage you to read through some of the countless reviews on Google, Yelp, the Closeness website, Facebook, Audible and Apple Podcasts.
It’s not easy to share our intimate stories like this publicly, so the fact that these women have, speaks volumes.
Then:
Indecisiveness is often a part of female nature. So is not knowing yourself. So is not knowing what you want. Many women want and expect a man to know these things for them or figure it out. He should know what to do, how to touch, lead, uncover what excites her. It’s amazing what calm masculine presence, assertiveness and confidence can do to help you get in touch with yourself.
Women generally cannot and do not want to teach their partner how to have sex with them, seduce them or give them the emotional piece that’s missing from so many relationships today. That’s where I come in.
It’s difficult if not impossible for women to communicate to their partner how to become a better or more dominant and sensual lover. Yet, women crave romance, passion, hot and intense experiences, enormous amounts of attention, healthy dominance and a healthy dose of masculinity.
If you relate, or if you’re unsure of what to do next in the intimacy department for yourself, we can do some fantastic work together. I am equipped to handle all traditional and non-traditional relationships as well as all level of desire and intensity with regard to sensual or sexual interactions.
It’s always surprising to me that in almost every couple’s session, it’s the women who want more. More from their partner, more play, intensity, arousal, excitement. It’s the women who are ready to go further, have more done to them and can handle more. It’s beautiful to see but definitely demystifies the stereotype that men are more sexual.
It’s true that sometimes you may be dealing with an emotional block, or feel a bit stuck in your head, but I have found that it is almost always something the male or masculine partner is or is not doing that allows or prevents intimacy.
From me to you, even though you’re coming to see the ‘sex coach,’ please know that there is so much more to life than sex. Your sessions don’t need to focus on sex or intimacy at all. I’m an extremely capable life coach. You can come in to process, work through things, express your desires, or simply get some things off your chest. You have to feel safe, comfortable AND excited to be ready for sex. I specialize in helping you get there.
Finally, sometimes women carry wounding or pain that makes sexual play or opening up feel difficult. You want and crave intimacy, but your body shuts down or you get stuck in your head. I can help you learn how to be with your body in a soothing way that gets your needs met and doesn’t feel compromising. We work through these issues gently and it gets results. It’s even possible to do it in a fun and charming way that makes you smile and dare I say even gets you aroused, without getting triggered!
As with all sessions, sitting across from me in the office and simply talking is always, always an appropriate option. Why people come see however and seek me out is for a more dynamic and experimental experience.
SUPPORT THROUGH BETRAYAL AND CHEATING
Do you stay or do you go?
Have you discovered some intimate texts or communication from someone outside of your relationship?
Or is it an affair that has been going on for years and the lying has devastated you to the core of your being?
Before we can even begin to restore what has been damaged, we need to discover what’s true. Do you actually want to stay together and work through this? Are you open to restoring trust with your partner?
These answers may seem obvious, but they aren’t so easy to answer. Not when love, family, status, lifestyle and children are involved. I will personally help you discover what is real and true so that you can make choices that serve your relationship or I can help separate you in a safe and respectful way. Though I do always aim for Closeness, I can facilitate a respectful decision to separate or consciously uncouple.
Finally, for those dealing with cheating: At the basis of betrayal is a secret arrangement. Discovering your partners secret or indiscretions can be the most devastating experience of your life. Whether you choose to remain together or not, I offer gentle guidance to get you through one of the most treacherous chapters of your life. If both people are onboard, we can begin to infuse love, trust and intimacy back into the relationship. Or I can help you respectfully and safely part ways. I will be with you both each step of the way.
OPEN RELATIONSHIPS, ONLY FANS AND SEX WORK
SUPPORT THROUGH TRADITIONAL AND NON TRADITIONAL ARRANGEMENTS
If you’ve been involved or are currently involved in the sex work industry, such as Only Fans, Fansly, Many Vids or if you’re do porn, I have the experience to help you navigate your intimate or romantic life outside of all that.
For most people in the sex work industry, monogamy doesn’t just feel off, it may be impossible to maintain. I can help you create healthy boundaries and agreements for your relationship while still having all the hot sex that you crave.
Does sex work leave you feeling shut down and turned off to real intimacy? Maybe your choice of partners has been less than ideal and you want to learn how to love your body more. Have you noticed it’s harder to connect with someone in the real world? Often people in the sex work industry come to Closeness because they want to make sure they’re not broken, or be reminded what it feels like to be seen, appreciated and adored.
If you single, I can help you get in touch with that piece that feels like it’s missing. If you have a partner, maybe you’d like them to understand you and your work a little better so it’s easier to connect with them. The possibilities are endless to help get you back to feeling safe, heard, seen and satisfied.
Women are very receptive to love, sex and intimacy when you treat them the right way.
Consent is something we take very seriously at closeness and you should too. If you need help or need resources to get help, you can explore this outside website and learn more about consent here: https://helpingsurvivors.org/what-consent-looks-like/
BECOMING THE MAN YOU WERE BORN TO BE
THE SKILLS YOU WISH YOU LEARNED GROWING UP
As men we rarely have a safe space to get real help. How do you learn how to actually take care of your woman, get both of your needs met and keep her turned on and excited for you? I’ve got a remarkable ability to help inspire these things in you, even if it is hard at first, so that you both can get what you need. The world often doesn’t understand or have time for a man’s emotional pain.
As men we are expected to know. Know how to please her, seduce her, read her, love her and have all of her pleasure zones mapped out. But what if you, like most of us, never got the road map or learned how to do this any of this? Where do you go for help? Closeness gives the necessary guidance to help get her turned on by YOU and YOUR touch, in real time, so that you can be more effective and powerful in the bedroom.
Through respectful and tasteful sexual guidance, exercises with her, communication and demos, you will go home with a new skill set. One that will allow you to be more sensual, sexual and emotionally available on the first night of your appointment.
Due to the nature of how sexual attraction works, I see all men with their female partner present at first so that we can be accurate and get better results.
How will you know what we are doing is working? Because you will see it written all over her face and body.
Great sex, dominance, lasting longer, presence, assertiveness, passion, intimacy and communication. These are a learned set of skills. It doesn’t have to be as daunting as you’ve made it out to be in your head. Everyone needs help. If you are the kind of man who can put his ego, or “alpha” mentality to the side, I’ve got some great surprises in store for you that you’re going to love. If you can be open to learning a new skill, and be willing to put in the work, you will have a partner who respects you more and wants to follow your lead.
In many ways this work will teach you to become more of a man and the man that you want to be.
Sex, Intimacy and Relationship Coaching
SOMETHING DIFFERENT
FEELING SAFE AND COMFORTABLE IS EVERYTHING
Is it ever easy for a woman to truly feel safe? I would like to believe that the answer is yes; even if at times it’s for flickering moments. Nonetheless, I have come to realize that women are still curious and excited about some pretty hot stuff! Who can you really talk to about these things to explore and process? Thinking about a threesome, a sex party, anal sex, or using a new toy? Keep reading.
It’s hard to think of one place where a woman can go to safely get to know or understand her erotic side without having to perform. Without feeling expected to give more of herself. More than she’s ready for. More confusion and more pressure.
Where can you talk about such things without any pressure or judgement? Maybe for the daring, at certain types of play parties or public events, but that can often feel a little too exposed for most. Even the idea of someone wanting more from you when you’re not ready is uncomfortable to say the least.
But what if you could have an experiential session that moves at your own pace? A place where you could ask questions, not feel silly and explore your boundaries.
A place to get out of your head, feel more relaxed and allow some excitement and curiosity to circulate through you. Have you ever been in a position where you could enjoy building sexual tension without having to do anything more than just enjoy or feel it? The choice to say, “show me more” or “let’s stop here” is always yours.
I have found over the years that many women seem to lead a double life. They want desperately to get to know themselves sexually, they crave intense experiences and yearn for passion regularly! They hope that it will simply happen to them. They wait for it to happen to them. But they don’t know how to go about it. In fact, most women just hope or expect their partner to figure it all out. But then in every day life, being mom, getting through the day, feeling exhausted or finishing work always seems to take over.
There are two ways to explore more: If you have a partner, they are always welcome and encouraged to come to session. I can consensually guide you both to discover what you really and what excites you. Working at the comfort level of each of you, your partner will clearly see – in no uncertain terms – what turns you on and what turns you off. We’ll learn about verbal and non-verbal communication, eye contact, distancing, approach, pressure, intensity and passion. We’ can also un-layer all of those annoying bad habits and personality quirks that get in the way of hot or loving intimacy.
If you don’t have a partner, you are of course welcome to come in on your own. We can optionally build on a series of demos and interactions together that help you understand yourself on a much deeper level, leaving you feeling very well cared for.
If you are interested in working together with me in this capacity however, your ability to be accountable and responsible for your own choices is imperative. I invite you to call or text with any further questions, I know it’s a delicate subject.