SEX, INTIMACY AND RELATIONSHIP GUIDANCE
WELCOME TO CLOSENESS
When people begin looking for help in this department, a lot of questions arise: Will this person get me? What is this and is it safe? Will they be the right fit for us? Will my partner be willing to do the work and can I even talk to them about this? Can we talk about more than just sex? Oh my gosh, he’s a man! Will that be ok?
In most cases, the answer is the one you’re hoping for. Yes, I can likely help… profoundly. In most cases, if you’re struggling with anything related to sex, intimacy, communication, confidence, assertiveness, seduction or relationships, you’ve come to the right place.
I guide, teach, counsel, educate, facilitate, excite and mediate. I help remove barriers to intimacy with yourself or with your partner. We can navigate those hard to talk about conversations and explore desire in a safe space space that is often fun and engaging.
THINGS ARE A LITTLE DIFFERENT HERE
What to expect:
Come in, sit down, and talk to me. We can do sessions just like this for as long as you’d like.
Alternatively, I also coach using interactive exercise, demos, interactions and activities.
I can teach you how to approach, interact with and seduce your partner in the specific way that turns them on. You can learn to read your partner. I can show you how to approach confidently and interact with them assertively. You can learn to do things throughout the day to arouse her for what’s to come later…
I offer powerful, intuitive guidance to help you engage with your partner’s primal side to get you fast, positive results.
You can learn how to create hot chemistry, right there on the spot. Yes it can be learned.
WHAT WOMEN WANT
When requested, I teach male partners how to be more assertive, confident and natural with their partners in a way that women find arousing and thrilling.
Every man wants to give his female partner a hot, passionate experience, but almost no woman wants to teach her man how.
I also help women tap into their own pleasure and figure out how to identify and get what they want as well.
None of this can be done without first working through any of your sticking points and pain points. We build emotional trust first. Sometimes that happens in minutes and other times it may take a session or two. But you will never be expected to “jump right in to the sex stuff.” Unless that is what you specifically what you want to do.
LET'S GET STARTED
SOOTHING
A 180 degree, rainforest style view of nature, four stunning floor to ceiling glass windows with sprawling views, soothing art, supple furniture, mood lighting, a velvet sofa, oversized down pillows and feathers…all for your enjoyment.
SENSUAL
Real candles, a eucalyptus forest, huge floor length mirrors, essential oils, and your own private exit when you can’t wait to go home and explore what you’ve learned! Closeness is an elegant sensory experience!
SANITARY
Hand sanitizer, 2 HEPA air filtration systems, spacious accommodations, air conditioning, humidification, A/C or warmth, high quality air, a private entrance and clean restrooms.
FEES
WORLD CLASS SEXUAL GUIDANCE AND INTIMACY COACHING
Terms and Conditions:
A $250, non-refundable deposit is required to secure your first daytime appointment or $300 for an after-hours or weekend appointment.
This fee applies directly to your session cost for the first hour. You may reschedule your appointment any time up to 36 hours prior to your first visit for up to a week or two out.
All missed, cancelled or rescheduled appointments within 36 hours of your session will forego your initial deposit. Once you have come for your first visit you do not need to pre-pay for additional visits, but the same fees will apply for cancellations.
2024 Fee schedule is as follows: $250 per hour Monday - Friday 10-5pm. $300 per hour after 5pm, early mornings, weekends and holidays.
Billing is in 30 minute increments, not by the minute. Generally sessions run 50-60, 90 or 120 minutes, but can and do go over for billable time. As a courtesy, if a significantly less than 30 minutes is used, (for example 15 minutes) a $75 or $100 will be assessed based on your $250 vs $300 rate.
If we need to be mindful of time or keep to a shorter session, please advise me at the beginning of your session.
Accepted Payment methods: Cash, Venmo, Apple Pay, Zelle, CashApp and all major credit cards.
Credit Cards will incur a 5% surcharge
WHAT TO EXPECT FROM A CLOSENESS SESSION
I SHOW YOU HOW IT’S DONE, BUT FIRST YOU HAVE TO FEEL SAFE
Every session always begins with talking and connecting first to get acquainted, get comfortable and build trust. We make sure everyone is onboard with why they are here. We might talk the entire session, or when and if appropriate, you will have the option to interact with each other in real time with my guidance. We can escalate things and a glacial speed or quickly depending on your comfort level. From here, chemistry begins to build.
You will immediately witness an experiential change in how you interact around your partner that happens at an order of magnitude far greater than traditional talk only methods.
By engaging and interacting with each other in a safe, fun and consensually suggestive way, desire increases, emotional trust gets repaired and sexual attraction builds right before your eyes.
You’ll get respectful, kind, real-time feedback and coaching on what excites you, shuts you down, opens you up or turns you on in a safe, soothing environment. All interactions are optional, consent based and effective.
Remember: Talk only sessions with zero interactions are always ok.
RESULTS HAPPEN QUICKLY, BUT WE STILL MOVE AT YOUR COMFORT LEVEL
Like listening to my podcast, it does not take long to see results or to identify what needs to change. You will leave your first session with a LOT of new insights as well as ways to actually be different around your partner or future partner.
Guidance comes in the form of information and exercises you can apply in session or as soon as you walk out the door.
If something isn’t clear, we can, with everyone’s consent, show you how to get the result you’re looking for by modeling it, explaining it, or demonstrating it in a way that works for you.
I am your personal advocate. I take a warm, direct and sensual approach to intimacy and do not take sides, regardless of who contacted me first.
THIS IS A CLASSY AND ELEGANT SPACE
Let’s face it, we’re talking about some pretty hot and intimate stuff here. Sometimes unexpected emotions and anxieties around sex and intimacy do come up.
It is absolutely ok for things to get spicy and exciting in your session. It is also perfectly fine if they do not. It´s ok to feel excitement. This is, after all the point of why you came to see me. If you find yourself a little aroused or even extremely turned on, or if it feels like your sexual chemistry is building and being restored, that means what we’re doing is working!
There are no fluids exchanged. No one needs to get undressed. Nothing messy occurs.
The space is clean, sanitary and comfortable.
However, please feel free to interact with your partner or me based on your comfort level. We keep it classy, consensual and in good taste.
Closeness coaching needs to be experienced:
Tari is THE BEST! I had been researching premarital counseling and intimacy coaching when I discovered Tari’s Closeness podcast. I was immediately hooked and thrilled to find out he offered in-person coaching. From the first communication Tari was welcoming, proactive in accommodating. My husband and I both look forward to our sessions, whether its a couples sessions or one on one. Tari has a superpower in translating my thoughts into a language my husband can understand. He has been able to dissect so many issues, anxieties and behaviors and then transform them with his exercises and expertise. We have been able to work through heavy issues (and comical issues) but always leave his office feeling happy and closer than ever!
Working with Tari has been the best investment in our marriage and myself!
Abi Gault, San Diego
OPTIONAL INTERACTIONS AND DEMOS:
Show me how you make her feel...
I hold space for unique interactions and demos that create trust, excitement and arousal. The way you hold and carry yourself in intimate situations matters, even if you're just walking across the room to her. Understanding the effects your body language and eye contact has on your partner, is key for a great connection.
Sometimes we must unlayer some bad habits first. This includes talking too much, being overly careful when you touch her and dismantling the belief that you're acting or role playing.
We can transform your tone, energy, body language, and approach so that your partner actually responds favorably- read sexually- to you and finds you more attractive. She needs to feel like you're present, unwavering, masculine and that you desire her to feel SAFE before she will open up.
Next, you'll genuinely connect with your partner
Couples often think that foreplay or warming her up takes hours, but it can be done in minutes and even seconds. It's all about the sexual tension and making a connection. Not with your brain but with your energy, your intention and your eyes. You cannot logic your way through it or "deal with her" the way you would in a business setting. Sex is not about a trick or move.
You open her with presence and connection. How's your breathing? Your presence and comfort in yourself? I'll teach you all about the domain of the erotic and how to fan the flames of desire. In English, that means I'll teach you how to get her wet and read for sexual intimacy.
Eroticism can't flourish in the suffocating space of control, mechanical movement, silliness, too much comfort or overbearing dominance.
Finally, you can explore with connected touch
Does she like the slow burn and build up, or does she get antsy when you're too slow because she needs more passion and intensity? Being able to read this is huge for all couples.
Most women want to start slow then ramp up to the perfect intensity. Other women are calibrated to crave more immediate erotic and overtly sexual advances, while others like to be constantly teased.
Step by step, I teach you how to dial it back, or ramp it up in REAL time, so you can visibly see her arousal - or rejection. We do it again and again using her arousal as an indicator of whether it's working or not.
I teach HEALTHY assertiveness, confidence, leadership, and competence training.
This level of deep listening is unavailable anywhere else!
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Follow through and moving forward
When your partner feels aroused by you simply by being in your presence, no words are required. You have built powerful chemistry. She responds by getting excited and WANTING to have sex with you. There is no need for convincing, begging or asking.
It's time to take what you've learned and put it to use at home by having a passionate evening together. Yes, chemistry can be learned and rediscovered. Yes, I can teach you how to harness it.
Contrary to what many believe, chemistry and sexual tension CAN be created from nothing.
I AM YOUR SEXUAL TRANSLATOR
It doesn't take much to get your partner excited
Did you know women can shift from being frustrated and emotional to being incredibly turned on in minutes or seconds?
As your Closeness Coach, I have a rare ability to put into words or action, that which your partner simply cannot. I can teach you how to speak to and interact with your woman in a way that lights her up and makes her want to want you.
I TEACH CONFIDENCE, PRESENCE, ASSERTIVENESS, COMPETENCE, HEALTHY DOMINANCE, AND HOW TO BE SEXUAL
You do not need to come see me for purely sexually related reasons. I can help you communicate better. I can say the words you struggle to say, help each other gain perspective and navigate topics that are too hot to tackle on your own. I facilitate hard discussions without escalating anxiety.It’s also great to have someone to talk to who is outside of your friend group and can give you a professional opinion.
WHEN YOUR WORDS GET LOST IN TRANSLATION, I AM YOUR TRANSLATOR
HAVE BETTER SEX TONIGHT
YOU'VE NEVER EXPERIENCED SOMETHING LIKE THIS BEFORE
Often, current clients who have gone through traditional forms of therapy, sex therapy, psychotherapy and marriage and family counseling, report that the advice they received was too general or bland.
Sexual intimacy requires more nuance and awareness around very specific interactions. Therapists are a wonderful and necessary asset for our mental and emotional health, but when you’re looking for help with polarity, masculine and feminine energy, assertiveness, intensity, chemistry, passion, connection and excitement, you need something different.
Here, you can share your intimate, sexual thoughts, needs, desires and truths that no one else knows, without fear of judgement and without it leaving the room.
It’s incredible what getting it out getting to your truth can do for you.
In session, I read the room, use language and body language that you’re comfortable with and guide you and your partner in a respectful, suggestive way that allows transformation to happen immediately.
FOR WOMEN
What does this CLOSENESS guy know anyway?
Let’s state the obvious: I am a man, helping and teaching women how to get in touch with that very special part of themselves. A part that has often been neglected by them or their male partners and a part that they may not know much about. Tasting that forbidden fruit may not be for everyone but if you want to get this part of your life handled, I’m your guy. I help you get to know yourself, get out of your head and out of your own way to help you get what you want and need sexually.
I encourage you to read through some of the countless loving reviews on Google, Yelp, and here on the Closeness website if you’re skeptical. It’s not easy to share our intimate stories like this publicly, so the fact that these women have, speaks volumes.
Then:
Indecisiveness is often a part of female nature. So is not knowing yourself. So is not knowing what you want, and not wanting to teach your man what you do want. Many women want and expect a man to just know these things or for them or figure it out. Women want their partners to know what to do, how to touch, lead, uncover what excites her and to do so in a confident and attractive way. It’s amazing what calm masculine presence, assertiveness and confidence can do to help you open and receive pleasure.
Women generally cannot and do not want to teach their partner how to have sex with them, seduce them or give them the emotional piece that’s missing from so many relationships today. This is where I come in.
It’s difficult if not impossible for women to communicate to their partner how to become a better or more dominant and sensual lover. Yet, women crave romance, passion, hot and intense experiences, enormous amounts of attention, healthy dominance and a healthy dose of masculinity. Sometimes in session women will say right to their partners face- hey you’re smiling again! Your’e being too soft or playful! You’re not taking this seriously!
If you relate, or if you’re unsure of what to do next in the intimacy department, we can do some fantastic work together. I am equipped to handle all traditional and non-traditional relationships as well as all level of desire and intensity with regard to sensual or sexual interactions.
It’s always surprising to me that in almost every couple’s session, it’s the women who want more. More from their partner, more play, intensity, arousal, excitement. It’s the women who are ready to go further, have more done to them and who can handle more. It’s beautiful to see but definitely demystifies the stereotype that men are more sexual.
It’s true that sometimes you may be dealing with an emotional block, or feel stuck in your head. Yes it is up to you to get to know yourself too, but I have also found that it is often something the male or masculine partner is not doing, or is doing incorrectly that prevents great sex or intimacy.
From me to you, even though you’re coming to see the ‘sex coach,’ please know that I know, there is so much more to life than sex and or penetration. Your sessions don’t need to focus on sex or intimacy at all. I’m an extremely capable life coach and I think you’ll be delighted by the VAST number of subjects we can discuss and work on. You can come in to process, work through your thoughts, express your desires, or simply get some things off your chest. You have to feel safe, comfortable AND excited to be ready for great sex and I specialize in helping you get there.
Finally, sometimes women carry wounding or pain that makes sexual play or opening up feel difficult. You want and crave intimacy, but your body shuts down or you get stuck in your head. I can help you learn how to be with your body in a soothing way that gets your needs met and doesn’t feel compromising. If you’re partnered I can teach him how to go slow, be patient, be softer in his approach. We work through these issues gently and it gets results.
As with all sessions, sitting across from me in the office and simply talking is always, always a great option!
SUPPORT THROUGH BETRAYAL AND CHEATING
Do you stay or do you go?
Have you discovered some intimate texts or communication from someone outside of your relationship?
Or is it an affair that has been going on for years and the lying has devastated you to your core?
Before we can begin to restore what has been damaged, we need to discover what’s true. Do you actually want to stay in this and work through it? Are you open to restoring trust with your partner? Can they do the work?
These answers may seem obvious, but they aren’t so easy to answer. Not when love, family, status, lifestyle and children are involved. I will personally help you discover what is real and true so that you can make choices that serve your relationship or I can help separate you in a safe and respectful way. Though I do always aim for Closeness, I can facilitate a respectful decision to separate or consciously uncouple.
OPEN RELATIONSHIPS, ONLY FANS AND SEX WORK
SUPPORT THROUGH TRADITIONAL AND NON TRADITIONAL ARRANGEMENTS
If you’ve been involved or are currently involved in the sex work industry, such as Only Fans, Fansly, Many Vids or if you’re a porn star, I have the experience to help you navigate your intimate or romantic life outside of your work.
For most people in the sex work industry, monogamy doesn’t just feel off, it may be impossible to maintain. I can help you create healthy boundaries and agreements for your relationship while still having all the hot sex that you crave with your partner.
Does sex work leave you feeling shut down and turned off to real intimacy? Maybe your choice of partner has been less than ideal and you want to learn how to choose better or love your body more. Have you noticed it’s harder to connect with someone in the real world? Often clients come in because they want to make sure they’re not broken, or be reminded what it feels like to be seen, appreciated and adored.
I can help you get in touch with that piece that feels like it’s missing.
Women are very receptive to love, sex and intimacy when you treat them the right way.
BECOMING THE MAN YOU WERE BORN TO BE
THE SKILLS YOU WISH YOU LEARNED GROWING UP
As men we rarely have a safe space to get real help. How do you learn how to actually take care of your woman, get both of your needs met and keep her turned on and excited for you? We want things to last forever but they rarely do. The world often doesn’t understand or have time for a man’s emotional pain.
As men we are expected to just know. Know how to please her, seduce her, read her, love her and have all of her pleasure zones mapped out. Know when to move forward, assertively but not when she’s not into it. But what if you, like most of us, never got the road map or learned how to do any of this? Where do you go for help? Closeness offers the necessary guidance to get her turned on by YOU and YOUR touch, in real time, so that you can be more effective and powerful in the bedroom.
Through respectful and tasteful sexual guidance, exercises with her, communication and demos, you will go home with a new skill set. One that will allow you to be more sensual, sexual and emotionally available on the first night of your appointment.
Due to the nature of how sexual attraction works, I see all men with their female partner present at first so that we can be accurate and get better results.
How will you know what we are doing is working? Because you will see it written all over her face and body.
Great sex, lasting longer, presence, assertiveness, passion, intimacy and communication. These are a learned set of skills. It doesn’t have to be as daunting as you’ve made it out to be in your head. Everyone needs a little help. If you are the kind of man who can put his ego to the side, I’ve got a great tool box that will blow your mind, and hers. If you can be open to learning a new skill, and be willing to put in the work, you will have a partner who respects you more and wants to follow your lead.
This work will teach you to become more of the man you want to be.
Sex, Intimacy and Relationship Coaching
SOMETHING DIFFERENT
FEELING SAFE AND COMFORTABLE IS EVERYTHING
No matter how innocent or docile a woman may appear, nearly a decade in practice has shown me that most women are still curious and excited about some pretty hot stuff! And those who aren’t would often like to be! Who do you talk about this stuff with? How do you explore it before going all out? Thinking about some light BDSM? Anal? A threesome, a sex party, using a new toy? Keep reading.
It’s hard to think of one place where a woman can go to safely get to know or understand her erotic side without having to perform. Without feeling expected to give more of herself. More than she’s ready for. More confusion and more pressure.
Where can you talk about, nurture and bring out your erotic side without any pressure or judgement? Maybe for the daring, at certain types of parties or public events, but that can often feel a little too exposed and vulnerable for most. Even the idea of someone wanting more from you when you’re not ready is uncomfortable.
But what if you could have an experiential session that moves at your own pace? A place where you could ask questions, not feel silly and explore the things that do and don’t work for you?
Many women do not know how to get out of her own head, feel more relaxed and allow some sexual excitement and curiosity to circulate through them, on their own.
I have found over the years that many women seem to lead a double life. They want desperately to get to know themselves sexually, they crave intense experiences and yearn for passion regularly! Often, some even want to be taken, without any conversation. They hope that it will simply happen to them. They wait for it to happen. (By the right person of course) But they don’t know how to go about it. In fact, most women just hope or expect their partner to figure it all out without ever taking the time to get to know themselves.
If you have a partner, they are always welcome in session and are encouraged to come. I can consensually guide you both to discover what excites you. Working at your comfort level, your partner will clearly see – in no uncertain terms – what turns you on and what turns you off. We’ll learn about verbal and non-verbal communication, eye contact, distancing, approach, pressure, intensity and passion. We’ can also un-layer some of his bad habits and quirks that may get in the way of hot or loving intimacy.
If you don’t have a partner, you are welcome to come in on your own. We can consensually build on a series of demos and interactions together that help you understand yourself on a much, much deeper level, leaving you feeling very well cared for.