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Closeness: Sex, Intimacy and Relationship Guidance
San Diego's Number One Rated Sex and Intimacy Consultant

FACTS

Over 200,000 people listen to the CLOSENESS PODCAST

Navigate the most difficult intimate subjects with your partner simply by listening to the Closeness podcast and applying the teachings. Sizzling hot subject matter, thoughtful “how to” episodes on: kissing, touching, how to be dominant during sex, going down and more.  Provocative interviews, navigating breakups, understanding infidelity, self care practices and more.  

The Closeness Podcast is a free offering that enhances the intimacy coaching that you receive in session.  Simply click PODCAST from the top menu or scroll to the bottom of any page to choose your platform of choice. 

You can listen to Closeness everywhere podcasts can be found including: YouTube, Apple, Spotify, Stitcher, Google, Pandora, Tesla, iHeart, Deezer and more! Be sure to subscribe to get notified of new episodes. .  

WHAT TO EXPECT FROM WORKING TOGETHER

Tasteful, intimacy consulting and sexual guidance.  First, we get you on the schedule and have you optionally fill out an intake form.  Since most of us do not like group texts, I generally keep scheduling and follow-up responses to one phone in the household. Often, it’s the female partner who is the most communicative and who reaches out for help first. She then winds being the one who handles the bulk of scheduling and communication. Group texts available upon request. 

I use voice notes regularly for communication. Unlike marriage and family therapists, or psychotherapists, we can actually communicate in between sessions. Feel free to text, update, share your happiness and send voice notes along your journey with Closeness. 

I am in the business of creating genuine connections and building consensual sexual chemistry and attraction. It’s important to not mistake demos or interactions for anything other than what they are: a tool to help you and your partner connect on a more intimate level. Seeing it done or having an experiential session is often the best way for most of us to truly get what’s going on. 

Things can and do get sexy! That’s actually what you are hiring me for after all.  We don’t just talk about it, we optionally and with your consent engage in suggestive exercises and experiences  (not sex) that give you both the feeling and confidence that things are working.

Please see the coaching tab above  for more details about what to expect and different offerings. 

If you're single or just need to come in alone

You don’t need to be in relationship to gain tremendous help from this kind of work. To get a sense of my personality and coaching style, I invite you to tune in to a few episodes of the Closeness podcast to see if you resonate with what I share. There’s no better time to work on yourself and find a partner who is truly aligned with who you are, than before you entangle yourself up with someone new. All the questions you’ve ever wanted answered about sex, understanding your body, what turns you on, finding your voice and learning to receive pleasure are available to you in our first session. Or we can just talk based on your comfort.  

If you’re in relationship, I have found that over 70% of the time, women want to come in alone first for a one-on-one session. It’s a powerful way to get out of your head, sort through what’s going on, have the conversations you can’t talk to anyone else about and get some clarity on your sexual desires.  It’s also a great space to speak about some of the things you have been holding back from your partner, to see how they land when you actually hear yourself speaking them! This alone can be extremely healing. We can soften anxiety, understand how to get you more aroused, work on confidence, tap in to what you want and more.

GREAT RESULTS AGAIN AND AGAIN

If you’re in relationship, coming to sessions as a couple is the most powerful way to create lasting change.  When a female is present in the room, it gives you astounding real-time feedback on what works and what doesn’t. I will immediately and elegantly point out her subtle body language and cues so you can witness sexual desire in your partners eyes and learn how to harness it.

Most couples who come in are able to find success. But results come from your ability and willingness to do the exercises, come prepared each week with things you want to work on. It’s always best to immediately practice what you learn when you get home – which frankly should be a LOT of fun!  Don’t wait till the night before our next session to get things started. 

Often one person has a much higher sex drive than their partner. That person is usually female. If the man is ‘working on it’ but only tries once or twice and is meek about it, this will often appear to his female partner like he doesn’t care or isn’t trying. Take the bull by the horns and dive into the whole experience. Lasting change happens when both people are on board to put in the work.

Closeness coaching

Real sexual guidance to help you and your partner get to a better and more erotic place.  As an expert intimacy advisor and consultant, I offer full support through navigating sex drive, approach preferences, attachment styles, and the different ways you get aroused. Even though more or better sex doesn’t have to be our first priority, you can learn to share more closeness or have better sex almost immediately.  Both in office and in home sessions are available.  

With your full consent only, I offer safe, real world direction, demonstrations, guidance and support to help your partner initiate, advance and be more successful through all the stages of intimacy.  Learn to step back into your sexual power, find your voice and articulate what you want. I teach non-verbal and verbal intimate communication when necessary from the very first session.

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Why I'm Different

If you have experienced traditional forms of sex therapy, regular therapy, psychotherapy or marriage and family counseling before in San Diego, you may have been left feeling a little frustrated in the intimacy department.   As it turns out, many qualified therapists and sex therapists aren’t fully comfortable or knowledgable when it comes to getting into the juicy details of your romantic sex life.  I constantly receive feedback that an MFT’s advice was rather general, bland or that couple’s were unable to get the spark back because advice such as, “Try making out more or scheduling sex,” just didn’t cut it.

  At Closeness, we can get right to the heart of the matters that  are affecting your most, no matter how personal they may feel.  My warm, confident, present approach is stress free and takes place in an absolutely beautiful, relaxing, forest filled setting.