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Closeness: Sex, Intimacy and Relationship Guidance
San Diego's Number One Rated Sex Coach and Intimacy Consultant


Over 200,000 people listen to the CLOSENESS PODCAST

Navigate the most difficult intimate subjects with your partner simply by listening to the Closeness podcast and applying it. Sizzling hot subject matter, thoughtful “how to” episodes on: kissing, touching, how to be dominant during sex, going down and more.  Provocative interviews, navigating breakups, understanding infidelity, self care practices and more.  

The Closeness Podcast is a free offering that enhances the teachings you learn in session.  Simply click podcast from the menu or scroll to the bottom of any page to choose your platform of choice. You can listen to Closeness everywhere podcasts can be found including: YouTube, Apple, Spotify, Stitcher, Google, Pandora, Tesla, iHeart, Deezer and more! Be sure to subscribe to get notified of new episodes. .  


Tasteful, world-class, intimacy coaching, consulting and sexual guidance.  First, we get things scheduled. Most of us do not like group texts, especially in the same household. I generally keep scheduling, follow-up texts and responses to one phone in the relationship. Often, it’s the female partner who is the most communicative and who reaches out for help first. She then winds being the one who handles the bulk of scheduling and communication. Group texts available upon request.

I use voice notes regularly for communication. Unlike marriage and family therapists, or psychotherapists, we can actually communicate in between sessions. Feel free to text, update, share your happiness and send voice notes along your journey with Closeness. 

I am in the business of creating genuine connections and building consensual sexual chemistry and attraction. It’s important to not mistake demos or interactions for anything other than what they are: a tool to help you and your partner connect on a more intimate level. Seeing it done is often the only way some of us can actually get this stuff. 

Things get sexy! It’s what you come to see me for. We don’t just talk about it, we optionally and with your consent engage in suggestive exercises (not sex) that give you both the feeling and confidence that things are working.  

Please see the coaching tab above  for more details about what to expect and different offerings. 

If you're single or just need to come in alone

You don’t need to be in relationship to gain tremendous help from this kind of work. Listen to a few episodes of the podcast to find out more.  There’s no better time to work on yourself and find a partner who is truly aligned with who you are, than before you entangle yourself up with someone new. All the questions you’ve ever wanted answered about sex, understanding your body and pleasure are available to you in our first session. 

If you’re in relationship, 70% of the time, women want to come first for a one-on-one session. It’s a powerful way to get out of your head, sort through what’s going on, clarify your sexual desires and work through your feelings.  It’s also a great space to speak about some of the things you haven’t told your partner to see how they land when you hear yourself saying them! That alone can be healing. We can help soften anxiety, understand how to get more aroused, work on confidence issues and more.


If you’re in relationship, coming to sessions as a couple is the most powerful way to create change.  When a female is present, it gives the other partner astounding real-time feedback on what works and what doesn’t. Clients witness sexual desire in their partners eyes and learn how to harness it.

Most couples who come in are able to find success. But results comes from your ability and willingness to do the exercises, come prepared each week with things you want to work on, and actually practicing the skills, not doing it once, the night before session. Often one person has a much larger sex drive than their partner. That person is often female. If the man is ‘working on it’ but only tries once or twice meekly, this will often appear to his female partner like he doesn’t care or isn’t trying. Take the bull by the horns and dive into the whole experience. Lasting change happens when both people are on board to put in the work. 

Closeness coaching

Real sexual guidance to help you and your partner get to a better and more erotic place.  As an expert Intimacy Advisor, I offer full support through different sex drives, approaches, attachment styles, and ways of getting aroused. Learn to successfully navigate betrayal, breakups and misunderstandings. Most importantly, learn to have better sex immediately.  In office, or in home sessions available.  

As an intimacy director, and with full consent I offer safe, real world direction, demonstrations, guidance and support to help your partner initiate, advance and be more successful through all the stages of intimacy.  Learn to immediately step back into your sexual power, and articulate what you want, non-verbally as well as verbally, from the very first session.


Why I'm Different

If you have experienced traditional forms of therapy in San Diego, sex therapy, psychotherapy or marriage and family counseling before, you may have been left feeling a little frustrated in the sexual department.   As it turns out, many qualified therapists and sex therapists aren’t fully comfortable or at their best when it comes to diving into the nitty gritty details of your romantic sex life.  I receive constant feedback that an MFT’s advice was rather general, bland or that they were unable to get the spark back.  At Closeness, we can get right to the heart of the intimate subjects that are affecting your most, no matter how personal.  World class help from your Intimacy Advisor is safe, stress free and takes place in a beautiful, relaxing setting.