Hello, my name is Tari

and I am your  Closeness Coach


San Diego's #1 Rated Sex, Intimacy and Relationship Coach

The right blend of professional and classy with a little spice

When you're sharing the most intimate details of your life with someone, you want them to be sensitive yet decisive. Intuitive but direct, and constructive but not intrusive. Respectful, competent, but also a little sexy, if we're honest. I've spent a lifetime becoming that person for all your intimate challenges and curiosities.

More than just intimacy

Much, much more. I am a sexual translator who can tune into what your partner is feeling and thinking. I specialize in gently breaking through stuck energy, creating and building sexual and sensual attraction, building chemistry. To get there we sometimes need to heal old wounds, work through forgiveness, build trust, and give understanding. I also help create systems that work in your relationship and for your family's needs, even down to non-violent communication, deep listening, cooking and fine dining, hot date ideas, speaking multiple languages, worldwide living and travel, and even... acrobatics.

If you don't know where to start, start with me.

Closeness Clients regularly report that after 1-4 visits, their sex, intimate or love life dramatically changes for the better! Depending on your receptivity and openness to my style of coaching, you will be shocked by what can be unlocked and accomplished within a few hours time.


Over 200,000 people listen to the CLOSENESS PODCAST

Navigate the most difficult intimate subjects with your partner simply by listening to the Closeness podcast and applying it. Sizzling hot subject matter, thoughtful “how to” episodes on: kissing, touching, having sex, going down and more.  Provocative interviews, navigating breakups, understanding infidelity, self care practices and more.  Scroll down to select where you want to listen and subscribe.  


Tasteful, world-class, intimacy coaching, consulting and sexual guidance.  Most of us do not like group texts, especially in the same household. I generally keep scheduling, follow-up texts and responses to one phone in the relationship. Often, it’s the female partner who reaches out for help first or is the most communicative. She therefore winds being the one who handles all the scheduling and communication. Group texts available upon request.

I use voice notes regularly for communication. Unlike marriage and family therapists, or psychotherapists, we can actually communicate in between sessions. Feel free to text, update, share your happiness and send voice notes along your journey with Closeness. 

I am in the business of creating genuine connections and building consensual sexual chemistry and attraction. It’s important to not mistake demos or interactions for anything other than what they are: a tool to help you and your partner connect on a more intimate level. Seeing it done is often the only way some of us can actually get this stuff. 

It's fun to come together

If you’re in relationship, coming to sessions as a couple is the most powerful way to create change.  When a female is present, it gives the other partner astounding real-time feedback on what works and what doesn’t. Clients witness sexual desire in their partners eyes and learn how to harness it. 

Often couples love each other tremendously but are best friends and the idea of sex or even talking about it has become extremely difficult.  When couples come together, it acts as a reset for their relationship. Things that didn’t work before or that couldn’t be spoken about before, now have an opportunity to be experienced. 

I teach sexual confidence and competence safely and in a sexy way.  I’ll show you what to do each step of the way but you should know, in most cases, it is often the man who will need to step up his game.  

Support through betrayal or cheating

At the basis of betrayal is a secret arrangement.  Discovering your partners secret or indiscretions can be the most devastating experience of your life.  I offer support through cheating and help you move through it, if you choose to remain together. It is possible to succeed. I can help you get through one of the most treacherous chapters of your life so we can begin to infuse love, trust and intimacy back into the relationship. Or I can help you lovingly and safely part ways. The famous “conscious uncoupling” if you will. Whichever direction we go, I will help you keep your confidence and presence.  

If you're single or just need to come in alone

You don’t need to be in relationship to gain tremendous help from this kind of work. Listen to a few episodes of the podcast to find out more.  There’s no better time to work on yourself and find a partner who is truly aligned with who you are, than before you entangle yourself up with someone new. All the questions you’ve ever wanted answered about sex, understanding your body and pleasure are available to you in our first session. 

If you’re in relationship, 70% of the time, women want to come first for a one-on-one session. It’s a powerful way to get out of your head, sort through what’s going on, clarify your sexual desires and work through your feelings.  It’s also a great space to speak about some of the things you haven’t told your partner to see how they land when you hear yourself saying them! That alone can be healing. We can help soften anxiety, understand how to get more aroused, work on confidence issues and more. 


Most couples who come in are able to find success. But results comes from your ability and willingness to do the exercises, come prepared each week with things you want to work on, and actually practicing the skills, not doing it once, the night before session. Often one person has a much larger sex drive than their partner. That person is often female. If the man is ‘working on it’ but only tries once or twice meekly, this will often appear to his female partner like he doesn’t care or isn’t trying. Take the bull by the horns and dive into the whole experience. Lasting change happens when both people are on board to put in the work. 

(805) 427-3162

Closeness coaching

Real sexual guidance to help you and your partner get to a better and more passionate place.  Full support through navigating different sex drives, approaches, attachment styles, and different ways of becoming aroused. Learn to successfully navigate betrayal, breakups and misunderstandings.  Learn to have better sex as early as your first appointment.  In office, in home or virtual sessions available.  


Why I'm Different

If you have experienced traditional forms of therapy in San Diego, sex therapy, psychotherapy or marriage and family counseling before, you may have been left feeling a little frustrated in the sexual department.   As it turns out, many qualified therapists and sex therapists aren’t fully comfortable or at their best when it comes to diving into the nitty gritty details of your romantic sex life.  I receive constant feedback that an MFT’s advice was rather general, bland or that they were unable to get the spark back.  At Closeness, we can get right to the heart of the intimate subjects that are affecting your most, no matter how personal.  World class help from your Intimacy Advisor is safe, stress free and takes place in a beautiful, relaxing setting.